I started wearing panties when I was 12. By highschool it was normal. Hated boys jocks. I crossed dressed at home. So it was something I brought up when we were dating.
My wife was okay with it. I told her that it wasn’t an occasional thing…I wore panties all the time.
Later I told her I liked to wear girl’s clothes at home…and sometimes even out. Shorts and tops. She was unsure about that, but okay with me “femming” at home.
It became normal.